There is one thing that my mother-in-law got me hooked on early on when I met my husband….her mother’s secret buttercream frosting! Whenever it became time for birthday celebrations or special occasions, I silently prayed she’d be making cupcakes with her signature frosting, and the truth is I still do.  Fast forward a handful of years and I suppose I put in my dues, in part due to a few grand babies being added to the family, I was finally privied to the highly coveted recipe for this delicious and dangerously addicting frosting.  It’s a little time consuming, and we are not going for healthy here, but worth the time & calories.  Of course both of our daughters love this frosting on cupcakes, but my mother-in-law’s showstopper is a buttercream frosted white layer cake adorned with sweetened coconut flakes.  The absolute best is when she adds a little lemon curd between the layers of white cake to add a little zing!  Alright, time to just get into the recipe already.      


  • 1 cup milk
  • 3 tablespoons flour
  • 1 cup white sugar
  • ½ cup unsalted butter
  • ½ cup butter flavored Crisco
  • 1 pinch, salt
  • 1 teaspoon vanilla extract



  1. Using a medium-sized pot, heat milk and whisk in flour over medium heat.  Mix until smooth and thickens somewhat.
  2. Place plastic wrap on top of milk mixture so that a skin will not form.  Let cool in refrigerator.
  3. In a large bowl, mix 1 cup of white sugar, unsalted butter, & Crisco.  When milk mixture has cooled, add to sugar and butter mixture in the large bowl.  
  4. Add vanilla extract and pinch of salt.  Mix with a mixer until sugar fully dissolves and is nice and creamy.  Frost cupcakes or cake, serve & ENJOY!


Frosts 1 Dozen Cupcakes or 1 small cake

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Author:  Jennifer Kuhar